A surprise birthday celebration & a pandemic-induced life lesson ~a Swamusings post
Namaskaram 🙏
Yesterday was made memorable by many, which was personally a learning for me. 🤔Special Pranam 🙏 to Shri Prasannaji, who keeps pulling out such memorable surprises, relentlessly. 👌May Grace 🙌🏻 be with him to keep spreading the cheer 🌻
Humans generally expend their brief lifetime, based on perception and not reality. And, our perception of someone remains almost indelible, causing friction in relationships, which is easy to fix, yet goes unfixed for a long time, due to the fact that the hilarious species known as Homo Sapiens is also an extremely emotional species. 🥴 Perception (from the past) + Emotion (in the present) is a deadly cocktail that disrupts reality. Comprehending & appreciating reality (‘Life, the way it is’ as my Guru puts it succinctly) requires rational thinking, which in turn requires awareness, and time. Since time is a precious commodity in the ultra-competitive survival that many believe to be life, we who are always in a tearing hurry, hardly ever pause to ponder and wonder about the real life. This, in essence, is the root cause of misery, which sadly is our own creation. 😫
Like any being on this tiny planet, the deadly SARS-CoV-2 virus too has its virtues, apparently. The foremost of those being, pausing the maddening pace of our lives. When the pace of our lives slows down, we suddenly start perceiving even well known things, and people, and situations, differently. This is no different from slowing down a vehicle we drive to observe the beautiful scenery all around, which most of us rarely do.🤔
What I’ve witnessed yesterday was such a change in perception, which was my learning from the Golden Birth Anniversary (50th birthday) of my better-half (which she truly is, for it’s not easy to manage living with the aasaami known as Swamy, for 25 long years 😂). I witnessed the wholehearted participation and Joyful wishes shared by many, including family & friends, to make a day truly memorable for the wonderful being known as Mrs. Chitra Prakash, whose many virtues weren’t really understood by many in the past, despite experiencing them first-hand, which appears to have obviously changed, at least a wee bit, since people have had plenty of time in the recent past, to put things / events / people in perspective, and demonstrating the willingness to change their long-held perceptions, about things / events / people.
The online event itself (organised as a surprise to her – and even me, until the day’s dawn), the wide spread – truly global – participation, the messages – including a hand-written thoughtful note from her f-i-l, the gifts – cake (when not all bakeries are functional, yet), sweet & karam from Grand sweets along with flowers (wow!), and an elegant watch (hmmm, Jr has really grown up now), were all proof that any of us can change, over time, if we are willing to that is. And it was truly amazing to witness such a broad spectrum of willingness to let go of the past and embrace the present, from a wide range of people with unique characteristics and myriad backgrounds.
As a samsari, I know quite well how Chitra has touched many lives – not just humans, btw. I also know how much her actions on specific situations have been misunderstood by many, that helped solidify their perception & opinions about her and her family. I too have gone through this in my own existence and have held very strong opinions, based on my limited perception and comprehension of the grand cosmic dance known as Life. It took a Guru (Realised Master) to shake my strong belief foundation and let me become aware of ‘Life, the way it is,’ aka Reality. Only after such a powerful intervention did I change significantly as a person / being, a change many of you are aware of only at the surface level (long white flowing beard, padhigams, Quora Q&A, et al), but something my immediate family knows a bit deeper. 🙄 Only my Upa Guru Sohamanandaji probably knows the change far deeper than anyone else. 😇 And as a seeker… Wait a minute, this isn’t about me, so let me stop digressing… 😷
The beauty about my better-half is that she effortlessly moves on in life, as she doesn’t carry the burden of the past – including events, opinions, perceptions, etc. It’s not that she doesn’t remember them, but the amazing fact that she isn’t overly burdened by any of them. She certainly isn’t a seeker like me, which makes me wonder how she does it so effortlessly, since I’ve to spend considerable effort on Sadhana (spiritual practice) and contemplation to do the same.
So, despite the fact that quite a few participants of yesterday’s birthday celebrations have not only held strong perception-based opinions about her, but have also expressed them in the past, she herself was simply enjoying the day and everyone’s hearty wishes, remaining strongly rooted only in the present moment. And she did that so effortlessly, without doing any rigorous Sadhana. It makes a serious seeker like me go bonkers, since I write about it all the time and yet people don’t get it. And here’s a practitioner who I’ve been living with for well over a quarter century, who doesn’t even read whatever I write, yet actually gives a live demonstration of what I write, from my own experience! 😂
I’ve not only written extensively about the pointlessness of celebrating a date or day of the past, but have even admonished people for daring to wish me on such dates & days. 🤨 Though that’s just my opinion, based on my perception of life – limited or otherwise, my family obviously has to bear the brunt of such strong opinion.😵 In general people seem really happy to celebrate anniversaries – not just theirs, but those of their acquaintances, friends, family and relatives as well. And it’s mostly harmless, except for a typically sizable hole in the wallet, for whoever is funding such celebrations.🤐
That understanding is what made me go with the flow, and be part of the 50th birth anniversary of my dear sahadharmini, aka life partner, to whatever limited extent I can. 🎉
It showed me that when people have time, they can ponder, contemplate and eventually change their strong opinions about people, places and events, since their perception too change over time. The key is to find time, first and foremost for ourselves. That’s perhaps why time is known as a great healer. And we must all be grateful for the COVID-19 pandemic, and the prolonged lockdown resulting due to it, which helped us put life in perspective, and change our perception – and opinions – of people and events, because for the first time in our lives, we had plenty of time in hand! ⏳
As someone who always felt blessed to have Shrimathi Kalyani engira Chitra as my life partner, in this lifetime, I take this opportunity to express my – our, in fact – gratitude to everyone who made the Golden Birth Anniversary of Smt Chitra memorable. She truly deserves it and Grace 🙌 ensured she received it yesterday, through all of you. 🎂😊 May Grace 🙌 be with you for a purposeful life 😌 overflowing with joy 🌼
Pranam 🙏
~Swamy | @PrakashSwamy