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Past in Present!

15 Apr

The extended Swamily recently made a road trip to his home town Madurai, for his mother’s 70th birthday celebration ceremony (the traditional way with homam or havan, vedic chanting, etc). After the ever-customary Temple visit & purchasing all kinds of stuff (from eatables to brass items to Nannari sorbet to clothing to sticker bindhi to lamp wicks to gift items to rug cloth bags for saving the planet from plastics to what not…) and now-customary visit to Ramana Mandhiram (RamaNa Maharishi‘s uncle’s house, in the lane opposite to the South Gopuram of the world famous Madurai Meenakshi Sundareswarar temple, where BhagawAn had the profound death experience, while still in his teens, which set his historic one-way trip to the sacred town of AruNAchalA aka ThiruvaNNAmalai, to shine his “Who am I!” spiritual light on the world), they had some time in hand to visit the residence where they’ve spent several of their formative years. 

Present Past… 

During the return journey, the family took a quick detour into a suburb of Dindigul called NGO colony, where Swamy lived for a few years, during the middle & high school years. Swamy’s sister-in-law #3 (of the 3) made an insightful observation, when the extended Swamily were about to get down from the vehicle to see the old house at NGO colony, Dindigul.


Past Past… 

After being away from the family for a few years (for better education, he was left with his grandparents & maternal uncle’s family in Madurai, during the Primary school years, which happened at BAla Gurukulam & Sri VidhyAlayam schools, in S.S.Colony), this independent house (Swamy Sr’s first own house – quite an achievement then, for an honest government servant with a fairly large brood & an extended family) is where Swamy lived & studied from 6-10th standard (@ MSP Solai Nadar Memorial HSS, which apparently remains one of the top schools in the town); met with a life altering (quite literally) sports accident (shattered the knee cap due to improper landing at long jump – for which the PET didn’t bother to train anyone – that too immediately after a sprint, for which Swamy seem have a natural flair) not only abruptly ended his potential sports career (India still awaits an Olympics Gold in Sprint 🐥) but also forced him to discontinue the scholastic education (due to incorrect treatment by an allegedly drug-addict doctor, which resulted in 2 surgeries & prolonged the period of recovery to several months) that he (pretty much always) did well in (a State Rank in S.S.L.C & University Rank in Engineering will sufficiently substantiate that claim), for an year (which eventually made him Anna to his fellow students, then onwards, simply because he was an year senior to them 😜); became an ignorant agnostic for a short duration (blaming God for letting him down😣); turned believer (is it gnostic! 🤔) again; discovered (or re-discovered) his talent for sketching & writing (no formal training in either craft, other than joining a popular online course for painting & promptly discontinuing it soon 🙃); silently appreciated the value of family (hint: his left leg was in a PoP cast for months, due to 2 surgeries to fix his damaged knee, so he couldn’t go to the restroom on his own for awhile – at least until he could pull himself around with the cast 🤕), et al.


Long story short… or in today’s SoMe terms – blog story tweet 😁, that house occupied a significant number of gray cell real estate, to store piles of unreal memories, letting the mind reminisce the long gone past, as and when it liked. And there are a few other places like that as well (Swamy Sr was a humble – untainted as well – government servant, who was routinely transferred from one town to another, every two or three years), not only in Madurai, but also nearby towns like RAmanhAthapuram, Dindigul & UtthamapALayam.


Present Past… 

Incidentally, Swamy was inadvertently visiting some of these places, in the recent past, for different purposes. As a serious seeker, he is fully aware that there are no accidents or mere coincidences in Life. So, his sister-in-law’s (an intellectual & writer similar to Swamy, but doesn’t dabble on the spiritual space, unlike Swamy) remark triggered a thought train… (ah, that bloody wily mind… how glad is it to be in the thick of pointless action again.. & again.. & again.. 💭😱).

Here’s what she said (may not be verbatim, but close enough)…

Anna, you seem to be the most excited person, who wants to see this old house!

A pertinent point, considering the group of people getting out to see the house (now in dilapidated condition, locked out without any inhabitants) included 2 (out of 4) of his younger brothers (who too have lived there) & one more sister-in-law (who is familiar with the house) & the other s-i-l’s parents (who happen to be paternal aunt & her husband, for the brothers & thereby familiar with that house as well). The 3 kids (of the younger brothers) & the driver were just curious about all the excitement of the (yet-to-grow-up) adults, as they had no clue about the place. But the kids were naturally excited about climbing the wall & exploring the ancient dwelling of their parents, where they probably were the past replicas of them in the present! 😯


After spending a short while, checking every part of the house (it was locked, but one can go around, climb the stairs to the open terrace & also peep through the partially shut windows) & recalling a few interesting (or intriguing, depending on the perspective) incidents, the group left the derelict place, overflowing with memories of a long gone, but obviously not yet forgotten, past. The smartphones captured the house, frozen in time, for posterity, as it’s quite possible that none of them may ever visit it again! 


Past in Present… 

As the vehicle continued to clock kilometres on the expressway, speeding towards Chennai, so everyone but Swamy can rush back to their survival routine the next morning, Swamy recalled a different incident, from his Master Sadhguru’s life, which resonated with what he’s now going through. 

It’s called the Karma YAtrA, which enabled those involved in Sadhguru‘s consecration of the Dhyanalinga, (a one-of-a-kind perennial energy form, consecrated using the ancient mystical process of PrANa PratishthA, which is his Guru’s will that took him 3 births to complete), to experience their past, the memories of which was impeding their participation / presence, by exploring places of their past!

(you may know more about it here… http://isha.sadhguru.org/mystic/dhyanalinga/consecration-process/karma-yatra/)

After reaching Chennai late in the night (which can also be termed as early in the morning), taking a brief nap & waking up fresh, listening to the cooing & chirping of birds, it became clear to Swamy that, he has started visiting places of his past recently, not to remember the past (that was a reality a long time ago, but obviously not anymore) but to let go of it (as it has no relevance or value to the spiritual pursuit, progressing towards self-realisation). For good! 
Though Swamy’s state of awareness is still limited to only the Present Past (past events of the present birth / lifetime) and yet to expand to the Past Past (past events in previous lifetimes), he’s at least clear about what needs to be done in the present, ASAP, about the past… Quickly cover a few more places that enshrine memories… to complete the Karma yAtrA, i.e. journey to the Past in Present! 👍👣😌🙌

Be joyful 😌 & spread the cheer 🌻
~Swamy

@PrakashSwamy 


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Mata, Pita, Guru, Deivam – the order that everyone still gets wrong! ~ Part 1

9 May

Mata, Pita, Guru, Deivam – the order that everyone still gets wrong! ~ Part 1 

Mata (mother or mummy), Pita (father or pops), Guru (teacher or spiritual guide), Deivam (God or supreme Truth / reality) – this is the order of obeisance we’ve been taught from our childhood, first by the first one (the second one usually doesn’t bother about touchy-feely things like these 😉 and later by the pseudo third ones (standard edition teachers who ass-u-me Guru = Teacher, because it’s an easy way to intimidate students, and parents  :O)

The BAUHumbug way everyone understood this is it’s the ascending order of respect or devotion, i.e.

  1. Respect your mom, aka Mata – she’ll be delighted if respect is elevated to worship (just the way it’s in the 69% terribly worshipful southern state), ‘coz your daily survival pretty much depends on her whims & fancies
  2. Respect your dad, aka Pita – he’s perfectly fine with respect (worship is reserved for temples only, in his lifebook), which in many cases is expected & in most cases is demanded as well
  3. Respect your Teacher, aka Guru – this is where the confusion starts because
    a) there are too many teachers one encounters in a long studious lifetime, who all invariably expect respect anyway
    b) pretty much none of them teach you anything really useful to make a decent living
    c) none of them even remotely appear like the ISO certified Gurus in their flowing robes and shining faces beaming from within amazing beards but instead are like the uncle or aunt next door, which is essentially what they are anyway 
  4. Worship your God, aka Deivam – the key here is ‘your God’ because of the amazing human trait for inventing not only Gods but also multiple religions for the one & only God (at least that’s what every scripture worth its ink says, consistently)

20131102_140745You, like any fellow human, do respect or worship all of them diligently, but eventually end up wondering why, especially after you start using your own credit or debit card extensively for your expenses, however incredulous they are (I meant the expenses ;). 

Why the heck should I respect (forget worship dude, that’s so Jurassic)? 

  • Parents (oh yeah, both of ’em – Mata & Pita) – who just did their duty, which they’re supposed to do, because they’re the ones who chose to give birth to me, not the other way around (given a choice of birth, you would’ve probably picked Ambani or Zuckerberg or one of those Khans or even the newest power heartthrob Trudeau – even though it would be pretty amazing if you had made those choices before you were even a drop of sperm)!
  • Teacher – ugghh, someone who’s been repeating the same lessons from pre-independence era, doesn’t like being questioned (even genuinely curious ones like ‘has no one ever planted trees before emperor Asoka’) and adamant on reducing marks for not putting a stupid brown wrapper on all text books & notebooks (with a label for each – at the top right hand corner). And, even more importantly, s/he isn’t on WhatsApp to respond to your queries just in time!
  • God – where the heck was s/he when I had fractured my limb or lost in the final round of national tournament or unable to find even one girlfriend from among 20 or so girls in my class. Oh btw, how come no one in my extended family or friends have never seen him/her even once!

20131102_140219Absolutely justified WTF reactions and very valid questions

Pretty much every millennial (are they called Gen Z now!) human being’s reaction would pretty much be the same, it won’t be a surprise if many of them have already posted their angst on Facebook wall, shared their bewilderment on WhatsApp groups & Snapchatted their dismay as well. In fact, some of them may be already trending on YouTube, beaming their bemusement in a video shot with their Pita’s latest smartphone, while munching a post-dinner snack from Mata, keeping aside the homework their Science Guru wanted the next day morning, while watching Morgan Freeman having riotous fun as The God in Bruce Almighty!

Knowing well it’s practically impossible for the first three digital dinosaurs to answer any questions by digital natives and the fourth (God, in case your social media hopping, big-G searching fickle mind has already forgotten about the MPGD order) doesn’t bother about such silly questions because s/he will sedately wait for many yugas for you to ask the right question (that too to yourself), let’s give up the idea of conjuring some millennial-friendly answer (that’s very relevant for their dinosaur elders as well) and focus instead on comprehending the problem at hand.

Moore’s law states that the computing power will double every two years (as transistors simultaneously became smaller & more powerful).

Thinking2Like any smart human whose intelligent sentences have become enchanting quotes (hundreds of Swamy’s too are starred in swamyray.wordpress.com or can be searched using #swamyray or #swamy on Twitter, Facebook & Google+), monsieur Moore has also left a lot unsaid as he must’ve been a very busy man predicting such complex things and then compressing them to fit under 140 characters (that’s a tweet length, in case you’re a relic from the Cretaceous or Mesozoic era). Here are the other possible things he hasn’t said, which Swamy gathered using the bloody expensive, ludicrous looking VR kit launched by one of the many smart phone makers, who are all in a no-win race to keep churning out phones that are nothing but clones – exactly the same as what everyone else makes!

Moore’s law unstates (or does not state – in case your aunt happens to be a language teacher) that…

  • Human intelligence will be halved every two US presidential terms (Clinton-Bush-Obama-Trump or Madmoiselle Clinton – you do the math)
  • Human interest diminishes to the inverse of infinity every two decades (that’s typically when a long-serving political leader finally decides to hang his/her boot, not because s/he wants to but since they’ve too – especially since they’re medically dead & his/her son or daughter is anointed to the throne by the chamchas & chelas, thereby ensuring nothing ever changes)
  • Human inquisitiveness is replaced by indifference every two academic years (as your birthday celebrations shrink from party for everybody to somebody to almost nobody, which is typically every two years, you assume you’ve grown bigger & bolder but neither the first & second – umm Mata, Pita – nor the third – grrrrr… Guru – seem to agree with your self-assessment and still admonish you for questioning their individual wisdom & collective might)
  • Human insight into problems – self-crafted or otherwise – and solutions (needless to add) subdues to the point of irrelevance every 2 apps (if you’re blinking, then WhatsApp your granddaughter)

Swamily11It’s only the last point that needs our attention, but Swamy went ahead and wrote the whole Moore’s law section because it amply demonstrates Swamy‘s uncanny ability to connect seemingly unconnected abstract dots about pretty much anything known to humans (and unknown as well, apparently). Otherwise, even without the whole Moore’s law section, this blog would still be very readable & thoroughly enjoyable. Heh.. heh.. 😀

We live in the exciting era of human devolution where intelligence has become a nondescript commodity, because for pretty much anything and everything a human still needs to do there’s an app. And, for any question, there’s big-G (no, not the Fourth G, but Alphabet’s subsidiary that’s probably used to find what the heck Alphabet means or does as well). So fitting the famous foursome into our daily lives is kinda hard for appstatic youngsters. And that’s exactly why the problem of misinterpreting the order and its purpose needs a fresh perspective, interpretation & clarification, which, incidentally, hasn’t been appified & uploaded to Play store or App Store yet by some vague 14 year old self-taught app whizkid from Yangon (they now have a democratic – well, almost – government, in case you’re the type that shuns reading or watching NEWS).

First things first (isn’t that why they’re, ahem.. first) – the order.

The Order of Mata, Pita, Guru, Deivam isn’t Ascending but Descending.

IMG-20140525-WA0000It’s fine if your mouth involuntarily screamed WTF, that too in the presence of M, P or G (not that they’re too bothered, considering that’s how every 3+ year old kid reacts these days). That’s what happens when you find your comprehension of something taught for ages (an inherent design flaw of the colonial way of rote education designed to produce obedient clerks that kicked out the exceptionally effective Gurukul way of learning that used to produce humans with their thinking & curiosity intact) takes a 180 degree turn.

CoachSwamyTake a moment. Gulp a cold one to cool yourself, if needed. And start reading the next part, aka Part 2 (that’s what usually comes after Part 1, unless you’ve emigrated from Mercury where the numeral system is entirely different, just-in-time before a billionaire blondie POTUS decided to not let any non-American into, well, America.. where else!) carefully, from the very first sentence onward.

… to be concluded in Part 2… as soon as Swamy finishes writing it 😉

Be Joyful & Spread the Cheer 🙂

~ @PrakashSwamy

 

The truth about Truth!

25 Sep

The hardest thing about Truth is, 80% – at least – humans will be confused, shocked, disappointed or disillusioned when they experience it.

OMG-KirabWhen you didn’t get that bike with gears for your birthday, it wasn’t because your dad didn’t love you, but he couldn’t afford it, at that time. He still got you a cycle though.

 

When you didn’t score the highest mark in your favourite subject, it wasn’t because the teacher didn’t teach well, but you didn’t reproduce exactly what was taught. The  evaluator doesn’t know or care about your linguistic prowess & has to correct hundreds of answer sheets with similar answers.

OMG-MonkeybWhen you didn’t ace your first job interview, it wasn’t because the interviewer was satan’s incarnation, but you were too cocky about your theoretical knowledge. She could easily pick a better one, who was humbler too.

 

When your couldn’t buy the motorcycle or car of your dreams with your annual bonus, it wasn’t because the vehicle was overpriced, but you had other expenses or debt to be paid off. Your friend bought it without breaking the bank because he had the sense to invest a % of his pay, every month.

 

OMG-A-BranchbWhen you couldn’t marry the love of your Life, it wasn’t because he ditched you for a fairer, richer girl, but you expected him to relocate. He was willing to do that after an year though, since his current project was his ticket to a raise or promotion or both.

When your kid couldn’t get a seat in the marquee school that charges a hefty fee, it wasn’t because the school was communal, but you lived farther & they didn’t have transport. He loved going to the neighbourhood school anyway as he could spend more time having fun with grandparents than sitting in a van full of tired kids.

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When you couldn’t buy that villa you desired, it wasn’t because you couldn’t afford, but because that would’ve hit your plan to get your kid coached professionally in the sport he loved. Your choice to buy an apartment in the neighbourhood where you live paid off big time anyway as the real estate price soared.

When your parents refused to leave your home town to live with you in the big bad city, it wasn’t because they abhorred your family, but because they were comfortable with the idyllic slow-paced Life of the small town where everyone knows everyone else & care to stop by & enquire about wellbeing – including yours. You used to love that place & parents too, while you were growing up!

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Experience of Truth is cathartic. It’s hard to accept, because most of your living is a facade, which, unfortunately, you’ve started liking & enjoying.

Truth even hurts most times because you can’t do anything about it. So, you inevitably end up doing all kinds of drama, pointing fingers at others & blaming them for what’s essentially your doing. In short, you’re stuck in your own maze.

There are three choices when it comes to Truth.

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First is “It’s not my fault!“, i.e. denial & running away.
That’s what you do most of your Life. And you know it sucks.
Second is “So what!”, i.e. defiance & resisting change.
That’s what your ego does to you many times. And you know that hurts.
Third is “Now what!”, i.e. acceptance & taking action.
That’s the way to comprehend the truth about Truth!

Be joyful 😌 & spread the cheer 👌
@PrakashSwamy

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