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Annaiyarumai ARidhal – அன்னையருமை அறிதல் ~ a special ‘exceptional’ dedication

7 Apr

Annaiyarumai ARidhal – அன்னையருமை அறிதல்

~ a special ‘exceptional’ dedication

I’ve never been someone who’ll do முகஸ்துதி anyone… on any occasion. Not my parents… better-half (she truly is)… child… family… boss… friends… political leaders… celebrities… This has ensured me being kept away from many ‘inner circles’, on purpose, pretty much all my life – in this lifetime. I’ve even missed awards at educations institutions and on-time promotions at the workplace, despite having all the necessary credentials in place. I’m now actually immune to exclusion and rejection.
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People love to pleased. That’s the norm in the society we’re part of. I’m someone who brazenly shows the middle finger to the norms of the society, while diligently remaining a law-abiding citizen and an ethical, kind (as much as it’s possible at my level) human being. I have never attempted to ‘please’ anyone, ever. And don’t see myself changing during the remaining part of this lifetime. But people haven’t gotten used to this in-your-face fact. Even those who (probably!) knew me for almost five decades now. Yep, it’s just a few more days folks… for yet another utterly pointless lifetime ‘milestone’ – a golden one at that! BAUHumbug.
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That kind of attitude hurts people. And I know it hurts. Despite the honesty of not having two faces – a fake one for the society and the real one that’s carefully masqueraded. And people remember only hurtful things. Kind things, however frequent (or infrequent) they are, don’t count. ‘Being nice’ is grossly overrated, while ‘Being kind’ is greatly underrated in this world. Aghast at seeing someone not even pretending to ‘be nice’, people carry the ‘hurtful’ load till they can’t carry it anymore, ahem, when they have to be carried away by others to you-know-where.
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Anyway, let me stop the rant here and get to the point (man, this is already four paragraphs long… when am I going to learn to write kural-long posts..!).
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Here’s a hymn (it’s different from a poem, even though it’s also a kind of poem) I’ve written sometime ago (October 2016). That was when the Dhinam Oru Pathigam hymns were flowing almost uncontrollably, racing towards the 2-ton mark, unpredictably (they’re somewhere near 240 now, as I redirected my attention to writing ArutkuRaL ~ Gnaanappaal couplets, which is at 111, so far). I’ve consciously flipped that hymn-flow switch now, so that I write hymns only when I really like to. Talk about ‘control’ – another fav topic loved by the herds in the society. Ha.. Ha.. (oops, I’m digressing once again).
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This hymn is obviously dedicated to mothers, though I would’ve never written any such thing for my own mother, not because she’s not special, but because to me that would be an attempt ‘to please’ her. But the hymn doesn’t care about my perspectives or preferences, just as the Corona virus doesn’t care about who it infects. So, it flowed from within anyway and I simply wrote it down. But when I wrote the explanation for it (that one’s always been in my ‘control’ ;), I had to pause for a moment and reflect. I simply couldn’t help it.
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The reflection flashed the images of illustrious seekers (and Spiritual Masters – needless to say) of the past such as Adi Shankaracharya, Pattinathar and Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi in my mind. What do all three have in common – they all performed the final rights of their mothers, despite being renunciates. A sanyasi has already given up everything – family included. All of them were sanyasis, without a doubt. Yet, they made an exception to their mothers. Adi Shankara came all the way from somewhere far in the north, all the way to the south, to perform his mother’s last rites. Pattinathar went one step ahead and sang a heart-wrenching hymn on her and performed the cremation with wet wood (or plant). Ramana Maharshi went further ahead and simply dissolved her and told everyone around him that ‘she’s gone for good!’
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Of course my mother is still reasonably healthy (thank you my Lord ‘Kudikaakkum Kumaramalayan’) and I’m just another nondescript seeker, who isn’t worthy of even dreaming about such stalwarts on the spiritual realm (despite having an awesome Guru who can simply walk into such company any day, without even trying). Wonder why then so much build-up for a mere re-publishing of a hymn (that’s as much a question to myself, as it is to you)? Because mothers are not just exceptions, but they are exceptional beings. They are the only ones who actually create Life – a brand new life – in this world, which automatically elevates them to the level of a SaguNa Brahmam, i.e. a God with form and guNaas (attributes, characteristics, quirks… you get the drift). Our problem is we’re stuck with the SaguNa part of everyone – including mother (and father as well, but which child has ever given a damn about father anyway). Mothers are human too and naturally are full of flaws like any other human being. But there’s no taking away the fact that they are special, despite their flaws. They are exceptions. Period.
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Anyway, so why am I writing such a long – obviously controversial & most likely to be debated, within the family at least – post and re-publishing this hymn on this auspicious Panguni Uththiram day? Today happens to be Swamy’s mother’s nakshatra (birth star) birthday (she doesn’t celebrate ‘english’ birthdays, btw, which I completely agree with – surprisingly). She was born on this star, a little over seven decades ago. And she absolutely deserves such a hymn to be dedicated to her.
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Not just her btw… I’m going one step ahead, despite the fact that this is me not being myself, at least for this moment, and dedicating this hymn to every single mother in my extended family – my better-half (who has always been a super-mom to my one child with two legs and the other two with four), all my sisters-in-law, every அத்தை, மாமி, சித்தி, உடன்-பிறவா-சகோதரி and other such அம்மாs that I know of. Well, having come this far from my முயலுக்கு மூணே கால் position about not pleasing anyone, come what may, why stop just there? The “Annaiyarumai ARidhal – அன்னையருமை அறிதல்” Dhinam Oru Padhigam hymn is dedicated to all mothers of this universe, including the mother of the universe Devi Parashakthi herself. Jai Mata Di!
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Hymn explanation (for those who need it, which is probably most of you):
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Dhinam Oru Padhigam – தினம் ஒரு பதிகம் ~ 138
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Annaiyarumai ARidhal – அன்னையருமை அறிதல் ~ a hymn on the magnanimous motherhood , which goes unnoticed until the end , without realising the Grace of the divine Mother, residing within any & every mother.
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Annaiyarumai ARidhal – அன்னையருமை அறிதல் (realising the value of Mother) ~ hymn explanation
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When I was within (your womb), you carried me for 10 months
After I slid out (of your womb), you hugged and kissed me and fed me with the milk from your soft breast (mother’s milk)
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In the clear light of the moon, you sang lullaby for me to fall asleep
When I played around merrily, you clapped your hands in joy and cherished
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When I was studying, you prayed for me to do well, all along
After offering another woman’s hand (in marriage) to hug / hold me, you moved aside / away
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Since my stupid mind was always focused on the thorn (the rough / sharper part of you – like harsh words)
I failed to see / realise the soft fragrant flower, where Mother Goddess UmA Devi’s magnificent kindness resides (divinity within each being – especially mother)
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As the silver hair spreads on your head, you look forlornly at the entrance and long (for me) O’ Mother
Will I realise your value only on the day of lighting the (your) funeral pyre, crying inconsolably.
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*Annaiyarumai ARidhal is a tribute to the selfless motherhood & mothers of all beings – not just humans – who are the manifestation of the divine Mother Goddess Shakthi.
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P.S.: After all this COVID-19 lockdown pressure is over and the roads open up, my first road-trip will most likely to be to see the two mothers – my biological one at Madurai and the universal Mother at the Ashram of my Master! May Grace make it happen. Shambo.
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Be Joyful & Spread the Cheer 

Mata, Pita, Guru, Deivam – the order that everyone still gets wrong! ~ Part 1

9 May

Mata, Pita, Guru, Deivam – the order that everyone still gets wrong! ~ Part 1 

Mata (mother or mummy), Pita (father or pops), Guru (teacher or spiritual guide), Deivam (God or supreme Truth / reality) – this is the order of obeisance we’ve been taught from our childhood, first by the first one (the second one usually doesn’t bother about touchy-feely things like these 😉 and later by the pseudo third ones (standard edition teachers who ass-u-me Guru = Teacher, because it’s an easy way to intimidate students, and parents  :O)

The BAUHumbug way everyone understood this is it’s the ascending order of respect or devotion, i.e.

  1. Respect your mom, aka Mata – she’ll be delighted if respect is elevated to worship (just the way it’s in the 69% terribly worshipful southern state), ‘coz your daily survival pretty much depends on her whims & fancies
  2. Respect your dad, aka Pita – he’s perfectly fine with respect (worship is reserved for temples only, in his lifebook), which in many cases is expected & in most cases is demanded as well
  3. Respect your Teacher, aka Guru – this is where the confusion starts because
    a) there are too many teachers one encounters in a long studious lifetime, who all invariably expect respect anyway
    b) pretty much none of them teach you anything really useful to make a decent living
    c) none of them even remotely appear like the ISO certified Gurus in their flowing robes and shining faces beaming from within amazing beards but instead are like the uncle or aunt next door, which is essentially what they are anyway 
  4. Worship your God, aka Deivam – the key here is ‘your God’ because of the amazing human trait for inventing not only Gods but also multiple religions for the one & only God (at least that’s what every scripture worth its ink says, consistently)

20131102_140745You, like any fellow human, do respect or worship all of them diligently, but eventually end up wondering why, especially after you start using your own credit or debit card extensively for your expenses, however incredulous they are (I meant the expenses ;). 

Why the heck should I respect (forget worship dude, that’s so Jurassic)? 

  • Parents (oh yeah, both of ’em – Mata & Pita) – who just did their duty, which they’re supposed to do, because they’re the ones who chose to give birth to me, not the other way around (given a choice of birth, you would’ve probably picked Ambani or Zuckerberg or one of those Khans or even the newest power heartthrob Trudeau – even though it would be pretty amazing if you had made those choices before you were even a drop of sperm)!
  • Teacher – ugghh, someone who’s been repeating the same lessons from pre-independence era, doesn’t like being questioned (even genuinely curious ones like ‘has no one ever planted trees before emperor Asoka’) and adamant on reducing marks for not putting a stupid brown wrapper on all text books & notebooks (with a label for each – at the top right hand corner). And, even more importantly, s/he isn’t on WhatsApp to respond to your queries just in time!
  • God – where the heck was s/he when I had fractured my limb or lost in the final round of national tournament or unable to find even one girlfriend from among 20 or so girls in my class. Oh btw, how come no one in my extended family or friends have never seen him/her even once!

20131102_140219Absolutely justified WTF reactions and very valid questions

Pretty much every millennial (are they called Gen Z now!) human being’s reaction would pretty much be the same, it won’t be a surprise if many of them have already posted their angst on Facebook wall, shared their bewilderment on WhatsApp groups & Snapchatted their dismay as well. In fact, some of them may be already trending on YouTube, beaming their bemusement in a video shot with their Pita’s latest smartphone, while munching a post-dinner snack from Mata, keeping aside the homework their Science Guru wanted the next day morning, while watching Morgan Freeman having riotous fun as The God in Bruce Almighty!

Knowing well it’s practically impossible for the first three digital dinosaurs to answer any questions by digital natives and the fourth (God, in case your social media hopping, big-G searching fickle mind has already forgotten about the MPGD order) doesn’t bother about such silly questions because s/he will sedately wait for many yugas for you to ask the right question (that too to yourself), let’s give up the idea of conjuring some millennial-friendly answer (that’s very relevant for their dinosaur elders as well) and focus instead on comprehending the problem at hand.

Moore’s law states that the computing power will double every two years (as transistors simultaneously became smaller & more powerful).

Thinking2Like any smart human whose intelligent sentences have become enchanting quotes (hundreds of Swamy’s too are starred in swamyray.wordpress.com or can be searched using #swamyray or #swamy on Twitter, Facebook & Google+), monsieur Moore has also left a lot unsaid as he must’ve been a very busy man predicting such complex things and then compressing them to fit under 140 characters (that’s a tweet length, in case you’re a relic from the Cretaceous or Mesozoic era). Here are the other possible things he hasn’t said, which Swamy gathered using the bloody expensive, ludicrous looking VR kit launched by one of the many smart phone makers, who are all in a no-win race to keep churning out phones that are nothing but clones – exactly the same as what everyone else makes!

Moore’s law unstates (or does not state – in case your aunt happens to be a language teacher) that…

  • Human intelligence will be halved every two US presidential terms (Clinton-Bush-Obama-Trump or Madmoiselle Clinton – you do the math)
  • Human interest diminishes to the inverse of infinity every two decades (that’s typically when a long-serving political leader finally decides to hang his/her boot, not because s/he wants to but since they’ve too – especially since they’re medically dead & his/her son or daughter is anointed to the throne by the chamchas & chelas, thereby ensuring nothing ever changes)
  • Human inquisitiveness is replaced by indifference every two academic years (as your birthday celebrations shrink from party for everybody to somebody to almost nobody, which is typically every two years, you assume you’ve grown bigger & bolder but neither the first & second – umm Mata, Pita – nor the third – grrrrr… Guru – seem to agree with your self-assessment and still admonish you for questioning their individual wisdom & collective might)
  • Human insight into problems – self-crafted or otherwise – and solutions (needless to add) subdues to the point of irrelevance every 2 apps (if you’re blinking, then WhatsApp your granddaughter)

Swamily11It’s only the last point that needs our attention, but Swamy went ahead and wrote the whole Moore’s law section because it amply demonstrates Swamy‘s uncanny ability to connect seemingly unconnected abstract dots about pretty much anything known to humans (and unknown as well, apparently). Otherwise, even without the whole Moore’s law section, this blog would still be very readable & thoroughly enjoyable. Heh.. heh.. 😀

We live in the exciting era of human devolution where intelligence has become a nondescript commodity, because for pretty much anything and everything a human still needs to do there’s an app. And, for any question, there’s big-G (no, not the Fourth G, but Alphabet’s subsidiary that’s probably used to find what the heck Alphabet means or does as well). So fitting the famous foursome into our daily lives is kinda hard for appstatic youngsters. And that’s exactly why the problem of misinterpreting the order and its purpose needs a fresh perspective, interpretation & clarification, which, incidentally, hasn’t been appified & uploaded to Play store or App Store yet by some vague 14 year old self-taught app whizkid from Yangon (they now have a democratic – well, almost – government, in case you’re the type that shuns reading or watching NEWS).

First things first (isn’t that why they’re, ahem.. first) – the order.

The Order of Mata, Pita, Guru, Deivam isn’t Ascending but Descending.

IMG-20140525-WA0000It’s fine if your mouth involuntarily screamed WTF, that too in the presence of M, P or G (not that they’re too bothered, considering that’s how every 3+ year old kid reacts these days). That’s what happens when you find your comprehension of something taught for ages (an inherent design flaw of the colonial way of rote education designed to produce obedient clerks that kicked out the exceptionally effective Gurukul way of learning that used to produce humans with their thinking & curiosity intact) takes a 180 degree turn.

CoachSwamyTake a moment. Gulp a cold one to cool yourself, if needed. And start reading the next part, aka Part 2 (that’s what usually comes after Part 1, unless you’ve emigrated from Mercury where the numeral system is entirely different, just-in-time before a billionaire blondie POTUS decided to not let any non-American into, well, America.. where else!) carefully, from the very first sentence onward.

… to be concluded in Part 2… as soon as Swamy finishes writing it 😉

Be Joyful & Spread the Cheer 🙂

~ @PrakashSwamy

 

Swamyems!

6 Jan

AK_Kash_SnowSwamy’s new year post(s) and the post on and about new year have got a fantastic response from readers – both loyal old and curious new, which does wonders for motivating any writer worth his salt to type more (do anyone still pen?) this year. A few also expressed their anguish at their inability to complete the blog posts in one go, not the least because of yawn-inducing boredom of topics (the enticing titles take more time to craft than the enchanting posts :O), but simply due to the ever-reducing attention span of any normal human being, as if there are (m)any, still around! 

The 2 new year posts were Swamyems, i.e., Swamy(‘s po)ems, published in a new blog exclusively created for poems. Dabbling in this genre after a long time (the last one was deep in the past – probably during his cool college days ;), Swamy is keen on churning out more, faster, so this post will get updated as and when a new poem – in both English & தமிழ் – gets published! This should hopefully satiate the thirst of his readers for shorter blog posts as well 😉

Swamily2Matha, Pitha, Guru, Deivam is the oft quoted order of reverence, established a long time in the Sanatana Dharma. It is just incidental that the first blossoms from Swamy’s poetr(y)ee are about Guru, Matha & Pitha (the change in order will become obvious, once the norms of normal Life become too oblivious). The next one will have to be about the Divine, naturally, considering his now focused foray into the spiritual path, with his Guru’s boundless grace.

Take your time and cherish these poems, letting them engulf you with the marvel just as when a flower blossoms. While still cast in the spell of poetry, remember to leave your thought as a comment and share it with a fellow soul to soak in the same feeling quietly!

Sadhguru15All That & More!

The Aura from the glow
Glow of the flame
Flame from the wick
Wick lit by a matchstick…

அவை அனைத்தும், அதற்கு மேலும்!

ஒளிர்வின் ஒளி
ஒளி விடும் சுடர் 
சுடர் தரும் திரி
திரி ஏற்றும் தீக்குச்சி…

Swamily_NorthShoresthers!

Fathers are like lather.
Not of much use on their own,
Necessary though for the shave to be smoother….

ற்றோர்!

தந்தையர் என்போர் வெறும் நுரை,
தானாக அவரால் பெரியதாய்ப் பயனில்லை
ஆனால் கட்டாயம் தேவை, முகச்சவரம் செய்யும் வரை…
Eternal Divine!
Swamy @ Kailash

Swamy @ Kailash

yonderly Space’s still Emptiness

glittering Star’s bewitching Wink
expansive Sky’s endless Vastness
morphing Cloud’s squelchy Texture…
‘உறையும் இறை!’
அண்டப் பெருவெளியின் அசைவிலா வெறுமை
விண்மீனின் விடாப்பிடிக் கண்சிமிட்டல்
ஆகாயத்தின் முடிவிலாப் பரப்பு
மேகத்தின் உருமாறும் மென்மை…

Words6Income’s Expense!

Many have time in abundance,
to speak something endlessly.
Few have patience aplenty,
to hear anything ceaselessly.

வரவின் செலவு!

பலரிடம் நேரம் நிறைய இருக்கின்றது.
விடாமல் எதையாவது பேசுவதற்கு!
சிலரிடம் பொறுமை நிறைய இருக்கின்றன்றது.
தொடர்ந்து எதையேனும் கேட்பதற்கு!
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Be joyful & spread the cheer 🙂
@PrakashSwamy
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