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What’s the Point!

13 May
No NhAladiyAr or Avvai KuRaL interpretations… 
No SwamyQuotes… 
… 
No New – in the past 4 days…
Not No More… Certainly not yet..!
Heh.. Heh.. Heh… 
… 

Anyway, despite no new – agmark original – content from Swamy,

the sky didn’t fall… 
  • the sun still promptly came up on east, shining at dawn… 
  • the birds still chirped merrily and flew around merrily… 
  • the strays keep finding many a hiding place in the concrete & steel jungle of compassionless humans to beat the boiling summer heat… 
  • the juicy news loving Indians somehow don’t seem to be bothered about the second coming of the loudest news anchor of them all, with his own channel now… 
  • the rain still doesn’t seem to be convinced that NammaChennai makkaL are worthy of at least a drizzle (when a downpour is the dire need)… 
  • the Americans – more than half of them, at least – still can’t believe their most unpopular President of all time (who they elected democratically only a few months ago) is running the nation like an arrogant game show host, making the unofficial, self-declared big brother of the world aka US of A, the butt of jokes, day after day… 
  • the other crazy despot ruling the rogue nation bordering the other big brother of the world hasn’t yet pressed that dreaded button, to ignite judgement day
  • the sad state of Tamilnadu that has lost its leader a few months ago and somehow trundles along miraculously as a headless body, is yet to wake up to the reality that there is practically no one around to fill her haloed position…

… wait a minute… this post itself is kinda like one of Swamy’s Nano blogs.. So, is he already back to what he does well – Write! That too, after a hiatus of just four days! Ha.. Ha..

1474812545607.jpgSo, since the post has anyway started flowing, why not explore this thought stream a little bit more and expand this to a Micro blog (don’t worry, this won’t be a Macro blong).

The reason why Swamy started writing this post is a truly humbling one. Despite having thousands of followers – all Social Media platforms combined, that is (he isn’t a celebrity after all – & he’ll never choose to be one, knowing how much he abhors BAUHumbug Template Living by the human herd), not one of them – yep, not even a single follower – seems to be perturbed about the absence of any posts from Swamy, in the past four days. Whoa! 
While a complete lack of response or reaction of any kind should be expected in this superfast paced world with a gazillion distractions, it had a telling effect on the person who continues to craft his ideas, thoughts, perspectives in the form of social media posts.
By asking himself “What’s the Point!” and contemplating the many possible intellectual explanations (ah, that bloody busy free mind is in action again) – in silence, if course – Swamy was had an awakening – that “he doesn’t matter!
img_0719.jpgWhile Swamy’s hymns, blogs, quotes, photos, comments, reflections, reviews, reminiscences, quips, jokes, clarifications, pointed answers & pertinent questions may resonate with a few fellow humans and may even matter to a few more, they might as well be from anyone else. Some random X, Y or Z, on social media!
Humans need information as much as they need oxygen.
Just as air – polluted or not – is everywhere, providing the necessary oxygen for people to breathe, content too is everywhere, providing the information – necessary or not – for people to consume.
Without information – useful or not – the mind can’t be active, since it needs information to keep churning thoughts.
If the mind isn’t active, there’s no individual identity.
Without the “i”dentity, there’s no existence. For anyone! 
As long as a creator (crafter) offers content (output),  in any form that a human being is familiar with (books, speech, art, music, etc), s/he will have fans / followers who will – passively, in all likelihood – await the next output from her/im. But,
In a world where quantity overwhelmingly outmaneuvers quality in pretty much everything, it really doesn’t matter who offers the content.
There’ll always be someone else. In fact, a lot more than one – for any type of content. 

That awakening really jolted Swamy out of his “I craft original content” stupor!

Because, it doesn’t really matter. At least not in the present reality – however much unreal it is. To anyone – friend, follower, fan or some nondescript human who stumbled across the original content, because big G (oh no, not the Creator G, but the Searcher G) led him/er to it. As soon as he stops crafting content, his fans / followers will always find some other source – who may or may not even craft any original content at all.
So, “What’s the Point?,” in creating anything, if it doesn’t matter at all!
Fact is – as hard it is to swallow, as any hard fact – only Content rules. And will continue to. Content creators just come and go. 
Lord KrishNA came & went. BhagawadgitA lives on. 
Gautama, the Buddha, came & went. DhammA, his path to nirvAnA, lives on.
ThiruValluvar came & went. ThirukkuraL lives on. 
Poets of the three Thamizh Sangam era came & went. The Sangam poetry collections like PadhiNenkeezhkaNakku live on. 
NhAyanmArs & AzhvArs came & went. Thirumurais & Dhivya Prabhandham live on. 
VAlmiki & Kambar came & went. Their RAmAyaN(am) live on. 
Adi ShankarA came & went. His bhAshyams, slOkAs, Stotrams & six paths of worship live on, as are the mutts, JyOthirlingA & Shakthi peetams he has created. 
AruNagirinhAdhar came & went. Thiruppugazh, VEl & Mayil viruttham live on. 
MahAkavi BhArathi came & went. His poetry & prose live on. 
ArutprakAsa RAmalinga VaLLaLAr came and went. Thousands of ThiruvAsagam hymns live on.
PAmban SwAmigaL came & went. His KumArasthavam & many other mantrA like hymns live on. 
img_1379.jpgParamahamsa YOgAnandA came & went. His “Autobiography of a YOgi” and the KriyA yOgA path he taught live on. 
Swami SivAnandA came & went. Hundreds of his books, offering amazing insights into the magnificent spiritual culture of BhArat live on. 
Bhagavan RamaNa Maharishi came & went. His “Who am I” self-enquiry and “AksharamaNamalai” and “ULLadhu nhARpadhu” live on.
KAnchi ParamAchAryA came & went. His “Deivaththin Kural” & many unrecorded, deeply insightful discourses live on.
Swami RAmA came and went. His path-breaking teachings, demonstrations and books – including the phenomenal “Living With The Himalayan Masters,” – that opened up the mystical world of Indian spirituality to the materialistic western world live on.
Osho came & went. Hundreds of his enchanting books – including “The Book of Secrets,” which expounds Lord ShivA’s teaching to DEvi Shakthi on the 112 ways to self-realization, and the myriad techniques he taught for self-realization live on.
Agastya muni, Pathanjali, AvvaiyAr, Aristotle, Plato, Rumi, KALidAsA, Kabir, Nietzsche, Whitman, Vivekananda, Tagore, ThyAgarAjA, KannadAsan, ChinmayAnandA, Watts… countless siddhars, saints, poets, realisd beings and masters came and went. The content they left behind, lives on.
img_0660.jpgThe list of great content creators – of past & present (including Swamy’s Master Sadhguru) – is pretty long, varied & impressive. And only their content – spoken, written, sung, performed, taught, transmitted – will live on. May be, forever. This has happened without fail, from time immemorial and will undoubtedly continue to happen, until there’s no time left (oh yeah, we’re a truly stupid species, endowed with one extra sense than other beings, that are very capable of crafting the total destruction of the only planet we inhabit in this incredibly vast, still expanding, universe). 
Humbled by this rude but real awakening, Swamy assured himself that he will continue to craft – and share – agmark original content. Of different kinds. As long as he can. Knowing full well that it’s his content that will live on. Not Swamy himself, who – the person(ality) known as @PrakashSwamy – will be consigned to the flames at some funeral place, when he must ease out of the mortal form, in which he remains trapped, in this lifetime. And that’s the only point of creating anything. For any creator. Perhaps, including “The Creator” of all creation that was, is & will be there!
adiyogi41s.jpgThank you Lord, for letting me realise that “I” don’t matter. Thanks to the awakening I had, the brand Swamy rests lightly on my shoulders now, with a lot lighter head than before! And with your boundless Grace guiding me for the rest of my existence, may valuable content continue to flow through me, if I’m worthy of being your instrument. PraNAm _/\_ 

Be Joyful & Spread the Cheer 🙂

~Swamy

@PrakashSwamy

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Past in Present!

15 Apr

The extended Swamily recently made a road trip to his home town Madurai, for his mother’s 70th birthday celebration ceremony (the traditional way with homam or havan, vedic chanting, etc). After the ever-customary Temple visit & purchasing all kinds of stuff (from eatables to brass items to Nannari sorbet to clothing to sticker bindhi to lamp wicks to gift items to rug cloth bags for saving the planet from plastics to what not…) and now-customary visit to Ramana Mandhiram (RamaNa Maharishi‘s uncle’s house, in the lane opposite to the South Gopuram of the world famous Madurai Meenakshi Sundareswarar temple, where BhagawAn had the profound death experience, while still in his teens, which set his historic one-way trip to the sacred town of AruNAchalA aka ThiruvaNNAmalai, to shine his “Who am I!” spiritual light on the world), they had some time in hand to visit the residence where they’ve spent several of their formative years. 

Present Past… 

During the return journey, the family took a quick detour into a suburb of Dindigul called NGO colony, where Swamy lived for a few years, during the middle & high school years. Swamy’s sister-in-law #3 (of the 3) made an insightful observation, when the extended Swamily were about to get down from the vehicle to see the old house at NGO colony, Dindigul.


Past Past… 

After being away from the family for a few years (for better education, he was left with his grandparents & maternal uncle’s family in Madurai, during the Primary school years, which happened at BAla Gurukulam & Sri VidhyAlayam schools, in S.S.Colony), this independent house (Swamy Sr’s first own house – quite an achievement then, for an honest government servant with a fairly large brood & an extended family) is where Swamy lived & studied from 6-10th standard (@ MSP Solai Nadar Memorial HSS, which apparently remains one of the top schools in the town); met with a life altering (quite literally) sports accident (shattered the knee cap due to improper landing at long jump – for which the PET didn’t bother to train anyone – that too immediately after a sprint, for which Swamy seem have a natural flair) not only abruptly ended his potential sports career (India still awaits an Olympics Gold in Sprint 🐥) but also forced him to discontinue the scholastic education (due to incorrect treatment by an allegedly drug-addict doctor, which resulted in 2 surgeries & prolonged the period of recovery to several months) that he (pretty much always) did well in (a State Rank in S.S.L.C & University Rank in Engineering will sufficiently substantiate that claim), for an year (which eventually made him Anna to his fellow students, then onwards, simply because he was an year senior to them 😜); became an ignorant agnostic for a short duration (blaming God for letting him down😣); turned believer (is it gnostic! 🤔) again; discovered (or re-discovered) his talent for sketching & writing (no formal training in either craft, other than joining a popular online course for painting & promptly discontinuing it soon 🙃); silently appreciated the value of family (hint: his left leg was in a PoP cast for months, due to 2 surgeries to fix his damaged knee, so he couldn’t go to the restroom on his own for awhile – at least until he could pull himself around with the cast 🤕), et al.


Long story short… or in today’s SoMe terms – blog story tweet 😁, that house occupied a significant number of gray cell real estate, to store piles of unreal memories, letting the mind reminisce the long gone past, as and when it liked. And there are a few other places like that as well (Swamy Sr was a humble – untainted as well – government servant, who was routinely transferred from one town to another, every two or three years), not only in Madurai, but also nearby towns like RAmanhAthapuram, Dindigul & UtthamapALayam.


Present Past… 

Incidentally, Swamy was inadvertently visiting some of these places, in the recent past, for different purposes. As a serious seeker, he is fully aware that there are no accidents or mere coincidences in Life. So, his sister-in-law’s (an intellectual & writer similar to Swamy, but doesn’t dabble on the spiritual space, unlike Swamy) remark triggered a thought train… (ah, that bloody wily mind… how glad is it to be in the thick of pointless action again.. & again.. & again.. 💭😱).

Here’s what she said (may not be verbatim, but close enough)…

Anna, you seem to be the most excited person, who wants to see this old house!

A pertinent point, considering the group of people getting out to see the house (now in dilapidated condition, locked out without any inhabitants) included 2 (out of 4) of his younger brothers (who too have lived there) & one more sister-in-law (who is familiar with the house) & the other s-i-l’s parents (who happen to be paternal aunt & her husband, for the brothers & thereby familiar with that house as well). The 3 kids (of the younger brothers) & the driver were just curious about all the excitement of the (yet-to-grow-up) adults, as they had no clue about the place. But the kids were naturally excited about climbing the wall & exploring the ancient dwelling of their parents, where they probably were the past replicas of them in the present! 😯


After spending a short while, checking every part of the house (it was locked, but one can go around, climb the stairs to the open terrace & also peep through the partially shut windows) & recalling a few interesting (or intriguing, depending on the perspective) incidents, the group left the derelict place, overflowing with memories of a long gone, but obviously not yet forgotten, past. The smartphones captured the house, frozen in time, for posterity, as it’s quite possible that none of them may ever visit it again! 


Past in Present… 

As the vehicle continued to clock kilometres on the expressway, speeding towards Chennai, so everyone but Swamy can rush back to their survival routine the next morning, Swamy recalled a different incident, from his Master Sadhguru’s life, which resonated with what he’s now going through. 

It’s called the Karma YAtrA, which enabled those involved in Sadhguru‘s consecration of the Dhyanalinga, (a one-of-a-kind perennial energy form, consecrated using the ancient mystical process of PrANa PratishthA, which is his Guru’s will that took him 3 births to complete), to experience their past, the memories of which was impeding their participation / presence, by exploring places of their past!

(you may know more about it here… http://isha.sadhguru.org/mystic/dhyanalinga/consecration-process/karma-yatra/)

After reaching Chennai late in the night (which can also be termed as early in the morning), taking a brief nap & waking up fresh, listening to the cooing & chirping of birds, it became clear to Swamy that, he has started visiting places of his past recently, not to remember the past (that was a reality a long time ago, but obviously not anymore) but to let go of it (as it has no relevance or value to the spiritual pursuit, progressing towards self-realisation). For good! 
Though Swamy’s state of awareness is still limited to only the Present Past (past events of the present birth / lifetime) and yet to expand to the Past Past (past events in previous lifetimes), he’s at least clear about what needs to be done in the present, ASAP, about the past… Quickly cover a few more places that enshrine memories… to complete the Karma yAtrA, i.e. journey to the Past in Present! 👍👣😌🙌

Be joyful 😌 & spread the cheer 🌻
~Swamy

@PrakashSwamy 


Swamystery in 2014!

31 Dec Realization

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for Swamystery blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 7,100 times in 2014. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 6 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

The Sheep, Sheepdog & Shepherd!

13 Aug

Sheep5Sheep are cute beings, with fluffy coat, marble eyes and a near monosyllable bleat. Mammals that are born, grown, fed, led, reared and sheared in a farm by another 2-legged mammal, which not only raises them to make a living but also eventually kills and consumes them.

Happy to be with their herd during their entire short lifespan of 10-12 years and content with what nature offers them – grass to graze, for example – and offer far more in return, namely milk, wool, manure and meat. Despite spending most of their lifetime in the open, roaming freely to graze, they appear to be completely ignorant of something their herders crave, fight and willing to die for – freedom.

Sheep1Sheepdogs are the guardians of sheep that keep the flock together. Alone in the herd, with the unenviable job of herding and protecting the flock, daily, in varying weather, they live their entire lifespan – only slightly longer than the sheep they herd, about 12-14 years – in the same farm as sheep, but fully aware that they are different.

Extremely loyal to their master, they are devoted to their assigned responsibility, despite the known fact that their master may never reciprocate their absolute loyalty and unconditional love, the same way they do.

Sheep8Shepherds are the masters – at least to the sheep and sheepdog. Though they may’ve their own masters – farm owners, businessmen who make and sell cheese, wool and meat for profit, et al – as far as the sheep and sheepdog are concerned, they’re the lords of the lawns.

One of a kind human beings who spend most of their nomadic lifetime in solitude in vast open spaces offered for free by Mother Nature, monotonously watching over a herd for most part of their waking time.

Sheep12At least one shepherd is renowned for expanding his herd to include the human kind, eventually spawning a new religion over two millennia ago, with millions of followers spread worldwide till date. Another, much younger, shepherd was immortalized in a magical fable by a goatee (no pun intended) toting author whose book continues to inspire millions.

Sri_Krishnas_CowIn Bharat, of course, we do have a cowherd who is revered, celebrated and worshiped as a God, whose Life is filled with miracles, mirth, mischief, myth, mellifluous music and mystic love. His treatise, given in the middle of a battleground, at the start of the mother of all wars, to his warrior friend and disciple – aptly named ‘Song of the Divine’ – is still considered and reverently followed as the definitive gospel of Life.Sheep14

All three – the sheep, sheepdog & shepherd – are always together yet alone all the time.

They are connected forever yet separated by nature, physiology, needs, attitude and lifestyle.

They live together for a lifetime yet are so apart in their thoughts and actions at all times.

Sheep13Imagine a farm with all three for a moment. An idyllic landscape painted in vivid shades of green, blue and brown, bathed in warm rays from the sun and dotted with sheep in white, brown and black.

The sheep are grazing or lazing and occasionally bleating. The sheepdog is focused and attentive, totally alert yet absolutely silent. The shepherd is resting under the cool shade of a huge tree standing tall and firm on that grassy knoll that has observed many generations of sheep, sheepdogs and shepherds, silently.

Sheep18Any and all of the sheep’s actions are essential but limited, and always monitored. They’re free to do what they can within the clearly defined limits. They’re constantly aware of the danger of straying away from the herd and are comforted by the fact that they’re safe with their herd, safeguarded by the ever watchful sheepdog and of course, the shepherd. And they obviously don’t seem to have any qualms about doing repetitive things, along with fellow sheep in the flock, day in and day out, on and on, until the end of their lifespan – naturally or by necessity.

Sheep17The sheepdog does what’s necessary and can be pretty meticulous and ruthless about it. It’s obviously the master of the sheep, answerable only to its master, the shepherd. Whether it is kind towards the sheep it protects or scorns at their herd mindset is a secret known only to itself. Despite being a completely different being, different from both the sheep and shepherd, it is absolutely committed to its assigned task and unquestionably loyal to its master. Though it’s free and fully capable of running away from the repetitive boredom of herding anytime, it willingly suppresses its natural instinct and spends the lifetime in service and servitude.

Sheep9The shepherd, as the only being in the flock with ability to think, imagine, observe, analyze, contemplate, comprehend, deduce and express, has infinite possibilities in Life like any of his kind, but chooses to spend a long lifetime in doing something so limited and repetitive, yet with a specific purpose. Most of his nomadic Life is spent with beings of a different kind that are thought to have at least one sense less than his own kind. And he too doesn’t seem to be bothered too much about a monochromatic Life, amidst the most colorful landscape, filled with curious beings doing their own things.

Sheep10Do the sheep, sheepdog, shepherd and farm appear and sound familiar?

Is a home or workplace so different from a farm?

Is a family or team so different from a herd of sheep?

Is a sibling or supervisor so different from a sheepdog?

Is a family elder or leader so different from a shepherd?

Is our Life – the way we know and live it – any different from that of the sheep, sheepdog or shepherd?

Sheep19Are you happy and content with being one of the three, living your Life alone among the herd, confined within set limitations, doing repetitive things throughout the Life and herded by others who decide what and how you will do?

Have you ever pondered about how such a monochromatic Life’s limitations can easily be overcome but is probably never done during this lifetime, due to reasons known only to you?

Has that additional sense endowed to you – the only known species on this planet – been ever tapped to wonder if it is time to at least start comprehending about Life beyond the repetitive, defined, monochromatic and known?

Sheep21So, what are you, dear reader – the sheep, sheepdog or shepherd?

Or, are you someone willing to step beyond the known into the realm of the unknown, to know and live Life, the way it is!

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Love + Gratitude > @PrakashSwamy
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19 Life Lessons From An Enduring Companionship!

21 Jul

Swamily14Mr. & Mrs. Swamy recently celebrated their 19th wedding anniversary. While Life together wasn’t necessarily a hard test for them, it wasn’t a fun ride all along either. But hey, they strived and thrived together for nearly two decades. And what better way to celebrate that than to share 19 life lessons from their enduring companionship, that they hope will be useful and valuable for any life partner to lead a meaningful, purposeful & joyful Life, together!

Disclaimer: Don’t drool over the possibility of getting to know some spicy incidents or juicy events from the Swamys’ Life. It’s the outcome that’s important, so no personal revelations to shake the world here. :O Just Life lessons! 😉

Swamily_NorthShores# 19 Absorb.

Life is full of things that keep happening all the time. The general human tendency is to react to anything that happens around us. Think opposite. Instead of reacting to anything and everything, just absorb things like the sponge that you use to clean dishes. What if that sponge starts reacting to the chemical in the cleaning liquids and the dirt on the vessels? Scary, isn’t it! Be like a sponge and just absorb!

2014 - 5# 18 Be nice.

Your life partner and you live your life together, for long. At least, that’s the idea of marriage or living together. So, be nice to your companion. What if you choose not to be nice? Your life (& your partner’s, needless to say) will probably be full of misery. Do you want to live life miserably together or merrily? Make the choice and Be nice!

2013 - 2# 17 Catch the moment.

Catch the moments that you want to be remembered forever. Not the ones that could make you forget each other for good. You like something he or she says or does, catch the moment to appreciate, applaud or thank him / her then and there. Such moments are your periodic investments for a rich Life dividend. So, watch out & catch the moment!

Swamily10# 16 Dare not to counter.

Each of you will have ideas. But your idea need not always be better than his / her’s. In fact, both your ideas can compliment each other, in most cases. Care to listen to ideas, however dumb or whacky they may sound. Dare not to counter!

# 15 Everything need not be done together.

Pedal Power - 1Each of you do things differently and different things need to be done differently. Let the person with the right ability for the right action do it his / her way. Don’t try to correct, when they do it their way and don’t expect them to do it your way either. Living together doesn’t mean doing together!

# 14 Failing is like falling.

Swamily_GardenWhen you fall, you get up, irrespective of whether you’re a child or adult. Failing too is like that. Whenever one of you fail, get back right up. Help the other to get back, if required. Think about what went wrong and determine how it can be done better. Allow room for failure, as there’s plenty of time in Life, together, to get things right. Failing isn’t dying, but just falling!

20131201_074215# 13 Go that extra mile.

Life is one long walk, together. It doesn’t hurt to go that extra mile, to make that walk pleasant, for both. If he or she doesn’t know something, guide them and show them how to do it. Give a pat on the back or a peck on the cheek, when they do it right. Don’t blow the lid, but do go that extra mile!

2014 - 1# 12 Treat as equal.

He or she is a human being too, just like you. And each and every human being – including your significant other – is unique. Neither of you are better alone, but both of you can be better together. So, treat him / her as equal.

# 11 Getting even doesn’t get you anywhere.

Swamily_Classic500Getting even is for sworn rivals and arch enemies, who are hell bent on bringing the other down. Not for people who are living together. Getting even divides, doesn’t unite. You’re united, to get somewhere in this Life. Getting even doesn’t get you anywhere.

# 10 Just listen.

20140322_120838Whatever nonsense the other one has to share (there are obviously tons of sweet nothings, daily), you have nothing to lose by just listening. You don’t have to react with your own ideas (mostly stupid, according to the other and vice versa) for everything the other says or shares. What’s your problem in just listening, when you don’t have to spend any energy talking. Just listen!

AK_Kash_Snow# 9 Leap, don’t look.

Marriage or living together itself is a huge leap of faith. There’ll be many deep valleys and gaping chasms that you’ll face during the challenging trek called Life. Many a times, there won’t be sufficient time to look before you leap. Have trust, just leap and don’t look (read # 14 again, if you’re doubtful)!

# 8 When life multiplies, divide the responsibilities.

One_Little_Happy_Family1Raising a family is as much a burden, as it is a bliss. But when divided, you’ve to handle only half the additional load of parenthood. Individually, it’ll unfairly double the load. When family multiplies, dividing responsibilities is the only way to balance life and move forward.

# 7 Stop prosecuting.

Gurupooja_Dakshin3Family isn’t a court, your companion isn’t an accused and you are usually neither a good lawyer nor an objective judge. And society – extended family included – are just passive observers, who gleefully watch and spill opinions. Whenever the other says or does something that’s not in your limited list of acceptable things, instead of countering their pov and arguing for yours, try to enrich your pointless list by including their views. But stop prosecuting!

# 6 Independence = Interdependence.

Cheetah_Mahamudra2Before getting together, you were both independent. After getting together, you’re interdependent as family, but still remain independent as individuals. And every individual likes to do things their own way, which could be diametrically opposite to how the other one does the same. Stop competing to be the first among equals as there’s no trophy for winning against your significant other. Live Life together as equals, by learning the winning formula ‘Independence = Interdependence!’

Dakshin_Ayutha_Puja27# 5 To live is to learn.

While doing things wrong (oh, there’ll be plenty of opportunities), instead of accusing each other for screwing things, look at opportunities to not repeat the mistake the next time (be assured they will happen again). Who said the fancy tools and techniques for problem solving you’ve learnt at work doesn’t apply outside it? Learn from every mistake, each of you make. Know the root cause and understand how not to repeat it. Keep doing it. To live is to learn.

Swamily11# 4 Stay tuned.

Life TV has only 2 channels – you and your partner. Curved 4K with Dolby sound notwithstanding. And there’s no fancy remote to skip the other channel, even if the content is repetitive (you live Life one day at a time, after all, doing many things over and over) and boring (according to you, certainly not the other). But the variety of entertainment offered by those two channels could be mind boggling and thoroughly entertaining, if you stay tuned.

# 3 Give & give.

MrsSwamy2Companionship is not about give and take. It’s about giving what one has, to the other, and then some. Not just material things, all the time. A hug, smile, pat or word, at the precise moment, can do unimaginable wonders, to nurture the relationship. When you keep giving, without expecting anything in return, you’ll be amazed at how much you receive. Just give & give.

# 2 KISS.

Swamily_YogaNo, not that obvious one, that you’ll anyway do as Life partners. This one’s the popular acronym for Keep It Simple Stupid. (or Silly, if you happen to be the gentler kind). Life today is already complicated. Living together amidst that chaos is even more so. It’s utterly pointless for either of you to strive to complicate it even more. Companionship can be absolutely blissful, if you learn how to KISS!

# 1 “1 + 1 <> 1” but 2.

Swamyly15It’s a simple math, really. You’re two distinct individuals, living together, because you chose to. If home were a jungle, the lioness hunts to feed the cubs and the Lion sits around lazing and doesn’t do much. Unless, the situation gets desperate. If family were the cosmos, the Sun nourishes all kinds of beings with its light and the moon just reflects it. If living together were lunch, Chapathi and Sabji together make it delicious. Don’t try too hard and fail together, by complicating the simple math. Respect each other for what they bring to the table and live independently, together in total harmony!

And dear reader, since you’ve endured so far, here’s a bonus lesson. 🙂

Swamily_2013s# 0 Never give up. Ever.

By getting into a Life partnership, both of you chose to live it up, together, not give it up. Come what may (be assured many will keep coming at you), no matter what anyone might say (trust us, a million – mostly unsavory or uncharitable – things will be said), keep chugging forward, together. Trust the other to watch out for you. Believe in the other to stand up for you. Nurture the other to care for you. Give up yours to nourish what the other cherishes. In sport, it’s the players that play and win or lose. Not the referees, commentators or spectators. The Game of Life is yours to play after all. And you need to play it together. Forget the result (& the comments) and focus on the P.L.A.Y instead. And while playing, remember to “Never give up on each other. Ever!”

And here’s the lord of all Life lessons, just in case you’re the type that reads the last chapter of a book first! :O

# ∞ Comparison is for commodities, not companions.

You can compare the price and features of grocery, fruits, vegetables, cell phone, automobile, a/v equipment, clothing, jewelry, medicine, flight tickets, insurance, etc. There are many tools available to expedite such comparison. That’s perfectly fine for saving while buying a product or service. Your Life companion isn’t a product and you aren’t supposed to buy him / her for any specific feature or associated benefits. By getting into a companionship, you’re gluing the two lives together with Love and binding them tighter with Trust, in order to sail or swim (being a compulsive optimist, Swamy can’t even imagine sinking, that too together) the Life ocean. And that can’t happen when you start comparing the quality of your boat or sail or radio equipment or life raft while in the middle of the – possibly shark infested – vast ocean, amidst a raging thunderstorm and the shore nowhere in sight. Comparison is for commodities, not companions!

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Be Joyful & Spread the Cheer 🙂

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Swamyems!

6 Jan

AK_Kash_SnowSwamy’s new year post(s) and the post on and about new year have got a fantastic response from readers – both loyal old and curious new, which does wonders for motivating any writer worth his salt to type more (do anyone still pen?) this year. A few also expressed their anguish at their inability to complete the blog posts in one go, not the least because of yawn-inducing boredom of topics (the enticing titles take more time to craft than the enchanting posts :O), but simply due to the ever-reducing attention span of any normal human being, as if there are (m)any, still around! 

The 2 new year posts were Swamyems, i.e., Swamy(‘s po)ems, published in a new blog exclusively created for poems. Dabbling in this genre after a long time (the last one was deep in the past – probably during his cool college days ;), Swamy is keen on churning out more, faster, so this post will get updated as and when a new poem – in both English & தமிழ் – gets published! This should hopefully satiate the thirst of his readers for shorter blog posts as well 😉

Swamily2Matha, Pitha, Guru, Deivam is the oft quoted order of reverence, established a long time in the Sanatana Dharma. It is just incidental that the first blossoms from Swamy’s poetr(y)ee are about Guru, Matha & Pitha (the change in order will become obvious, once the norms of normal Life become too oblivious). The next one will have to be about the Divine, naturally, considering his now focused foray into the spiritual path, with his Guru’s boundless grace.

Take your time and cherish these poems, letting them engulf you with the marvel just as when a flower blossoms. While still cast in the spell of poetry, remember to leave your thought as a comment and share it with a fellow soul to soak in the same feeling quietly!

Sadhguru15All That & More!

The Aura from the glow
Glow of the flame
Flame from the wick
Wick lit by a matchstick…

அவை அனைத்தும், அதற்கு மேலும்!

ஒளிர்வின் ஒளி
ஒளி விடும் சுடர் 
சுடர் தரும் திரி
திரி ஏற்றும் தீக்குச்சி…

Swamily_NorthShoresthers!

Fathers are like lather.
Not of much use on their own,
Necessary though for the shave to be smoother….

ற்றோர்!

தந்தையர் என்போர் வெறும் நுரை,
தானாக அவரால் பெரியதாய்ப் பயனில்லை
ஆனால் கட்டாயம் தேவை, முகச்சவரம் செய்யும் வரை…
Eternal Divine!
Swamy @ Kailash

Swamy @ Kailash

yonderly Space’s still Emptiness

glittering Star’s bewitching Wink
expansive Sky’s endless Vastness
morphing Cloud’s squelchy Texture…
‘உறையும் இறை!’
அண்டப் பெருவெளியின் அசைவிலா வெறுமை
விண்மீனின் விடாப்பிடிக் கண்சிமிட்டல்
ஆகாயத்தின் முடிவிலாப் பரப்பு
மேகத்தின் உருமாறும் மென்மை…

Words6Income’s Expense!

Many have time in abundance,
to speak something endlessly.
Few have patience aplenty,
to hear anything ceaselessly.

வரவின் செலவு!

பலரிடம் நேரம் நிறைய இருக்கின்றது.
விடாமல் எதையாவது பேசுவதற்கு!
சிலரிடம் பொறுமை நிறைய இருக்கின்றன்றது.
தொடர்ந்து எதையேனும் கேட்பதற்கு!
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Be joyful & spread the cheer 🙂
@PrakashSwamy
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