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The truth about Truth!

25 Sep

The hardest thing about Truth is, 80% – at least – humans will be confused, shocked, disappointed or disillusioned when they experience it.

OMG-KirabWhen you didn’t get that bike with gears for your birthday, it wasn’t because your dad didn’t love you, but he couldn’t afford it, at that time. He still got you a cycle though.

 

When you didn’t score the highest mark in your favourite subject, it wasn’t because the teacher didn’t teach well, but you didn’t reproduce exactly what was taught. The  evaluator doesn’t know or care about your linguistic prowess & has to correct hundreds of answer sheets with similar answers.

OMG-MonkeybWhen you didn’t ace your first job interview, it wasn’t because the interviewer was satan’s incarnation, but you were too cocky about your theoretical knowledge. She could easily pick a better one, who was humbler too.

 

When your couldn’t buy the motorcycle or car of your dreams with your annual bonus, it wasn’t because the vehicle was overpriced, but you had other expenses or debt to be paid off. Your friend bought it without breaking the bank because he had the sense to invest a % of his pay, every month.

 

OMG-A-BranchbWhen you couldn’t marry the love of your Life, it wasn’t because he ditched you for a fairer, richer girl, but you expected him to relocate. He was willing to do that after an year though, since his current project was his ticket to a raise or promotion or both.

When your kid couldn’t get a seat in the marquee school that charges a hefty fee, it wasn’t because the school was communal, but you lived farther & they didn’t have transport. He loved going to the neighbourhood school anyway as he could spend more time having fun with grandparents than sitting in a van full of tired kids.

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When you couldn’t buy that villa you desired, it wasn’t because you couldn’t afford, but because that would’ve hit your plan to get your kid coached professionally in the sport he loved. Your choice to buy an apartment in the neighbourhood where you live paid off big time anyway as the real estate price soared.

When your parents refused to leave your home town to live with you in the big bad city, it wasn’t because they abhorred your family, but because they were comfortable with the idyllic slow-paced Life of the small town where everyone knows everyone else & care to stop by & enquire about wellbeing – including yours. You used to love that place & parents too, while you were growing up!

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Experience of Truth is cathartic. It’s hard to accept, because most of your living is a facade, which, unfortunately, you’ve started liking & enjoying.

Truth even hurts most times because you can’t do anything about it. So, you inevitably end up doing all kinds of drama, pointing fingers at others & blaming them for what’s essentially your doing. In short, you’re stuck in your own maze.

There are three choices when it comes to Truth.

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First is “It’s not my fault!“, i.e. denial & running away.
That’s what you do most of your Life. And you know it sucks.
Second is “So what!”, i.e. defiance & resisting change.
That’s what your ego does to you many times. And you know that hurts.
Third is “Now what!”, i.e. acceptance & taking action.
That’s the way to comprehend the truth about Truth!

Be joyful 😌 & spread the cheer 👌
@PrakashSwamy

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It’s the Vowel, stpd!

15 Aug

Image“Ayyo!” (அய்யோ) is the natural expression, when something didn’t happen / go the way we expected it to. It’s the aural form of surprise, disappointment, failure, aim gone awry. It’s the abridged version of ‘Ah man, how did I not think about that’. It’s that rare acknowledgement of being oblivious to the obvious!

The “Ay.. Ay.. Ay…” by the bumbling lead actor that made us laugh our heart out in ‘The Gods Must Be Crazy’ (the hero of the movie has got the most enchanting, completely disarming smile and doesn’t utter a word, btw) is a western variation of this (see, they’re not that very different from us)! Oh, if you haven’t seen this movie series yet, it’s a must watch – even in pirated form!  So, rush to your nearest video store or library.

ImageAEIOU is the collection of vowels, which are considered completely unnecessary for communicating by the Millennials. “Wht th hck dd tht gy jst sy” is a perfectly understood and responded to by the Digital Natives (that includes my son, youngest brother, most of my crew, some of my pals and very few of my colleagues ;-). Pronounce the vowels together and you’ll hear the now familiar (please scroll back 2 paras to straighten those arched eyebrows) “Ayyo”!

Hmmm… this doesn’t sound so simple that Holmes can just brush it aside as trivial and mock ‘Elementary, my dear Watson!‘ There must be something deep in this. A Gen X (or Y or Z… gee, there are no more alphabets left)! Time to wear that pointy thinking hat (cap, hood, crown or whatever) then. Sorry Mr.De Bono, we’re in such a tearing hurry to think, we don’t have any time to pick the right color B<@

ImageArrogance – The more one knows about anything, the quieter one must be. Not that one shouldn’t talk about what one knows (those who listen intently do so quietly, in case you’ve failed to notice). But if “I know” starts sounding like “You don’t know”, then that’s no more showcasing knowledge, but showboating about that. And we aren’t Usain Bolt to showboat. Though he has actually earned the right to be arrogant, he usually isn’t. Avoid abrasive Arrogance to shine!

ImageEmotion – We’re emotional beings by design, but have also been endowed with the ability to think, analyze and control our emotions. Emotion is an effective tool, if used appropriately, in the right measure, at the right situations. Athletes use it effectively to compete against the best and win. Politicians use it effectively to fan the fire in their followers (which incidentally can destroy many). Wives use it effectively to get what they want. Emotion is the Garam Masala that has to be used sparingly as excessive use will spoil the dish. Learn to leash the Emotion beast to unleash success.

ImageIgnorance – No, Ignorance isn’t bliss. Whoever told that has successfully managed to fool millions over many decades. Ignorance just shows that you aren’t interested. Or not listening, willing, sharp, clued-in. It can portray you as arrogant, which is the first vowel you got to abolish anyway. It’ll weigh you down so much that you’ll be unable to swim to the surface to catch a breath, even when you’ve to for survival. Irradiate the Ignorance cancer for a healthy growth.

ImageOverconfidence – This can happen to anyone, who knows one’s subject or domain too well. Years of experience can feed this demon to grow into monstrous proportions that it eventually results in absolute arrogance. It will lead to wrong judgments and poor choices. Confidence helps in decision making, but Overconfidence lets one make the wrong choices, smugly, hastening the fall from grace. Bury it deep within, be calm and confident to progress further.

ImageUncouth – Gentleman or Lady, one must mind the manners. Wishing ‘Happy Morning’ to all, saying ‘Hello’ while picking a phone call, closing that running tap in rest rooms, throwing trash only in the bin (have you noticed there are separate ones for Paper and Plastic), switching off the lights and devices while leaving a meeting room, keeping the elevator door open for that person rushing in, not raising one’s voice even when feeling so within, switching on the indicator while turning your vehicle, not honking at any human powered vehicle… if any of these sound alien or funny to you, you’re Uncouth. That won’t get you anywhere ahead or above. Shed that ugly skin to slither up the ladder.

ImageSee, your English teacher was right when she told you in the beginning of time itself to be cautious about Vowels (it’s not her problem – or mine – if you’d misunderstood that as Vowals (வௌவ்வால்), due to your extreme affinity for ‘Bat’man). Just like your Maths teacher (but we’ll solve that problem in another post, shall we ;-)). All along you’ve been searching for that root cause that has been preventing your growth despite being so talented (according to you, that is). Tkng cr f th AEIOU nw, wl hlp 1 avd syng Ayyo oftn. So, there it is… the cure to all your career growth ailments… It’s the Vowel, stpd!

Be Joyful & Spread the Cheer 🙂

@PrakashSwamy ACC

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